After moving out of my parent’s house twelve years ago, my mom finally made me go through my desk, window seat and closet to clean my mementos out. She laughed as I walked by her in the kitchen on my eighth trip to the recycling bin in the garage with piles of old papers, tests […]
And the right thing is what, exactly?
For as long as I can remember, I have believed in the processes of disturbing the comfortable and comforting the disturbed. I personally was born into an extremely comfortable life, so I find myself intentionally seeking out disturbing situations. The seeking is usually on my time and my terms, which itself is privileged. I never […]
The Power of Stuff
There is a scene in one of my favorite moves, The Mission, where Robert DiNero’s character is scaling a waterfall dragging his old armor, seemingly as penance as he transitions from violent solider to peaceful Jesuit. The scaling itself looks difficult, and his added arsenal of “stuff” makes it nearly impossible. He slips, and his […]
Friday I turned thirty. I had been told over and over by other women, young and old, to dread this day with all of my being. A middle aged woman named Sandy told me a horror story about how she cried for days before, during and after she turned thirty as she thought her life […]
Our New Closets
On a rainy Tuesday, my thoughts keep wandering back to contact theory. I have nothing new or brilliant to add, but at times my circular thought gets so consuming that I have to write it out. Last night, a friend told a story of pressure his parents received to have an abortion instead of having […]
Why We Ditched the TV
On Saturday, Dan and I put our TV in storage and put our Netflix account on hold. We rearranged our sitting room so that it would have a new focal point. It felt good. It was not that we were watching four hours of TV a day like the average American, we barely watched it […]
Who Will I Trip Over While Taking the Long View?
Where is the balance between charity and justice? Between thinking big thoughts and hitting the ground running? Between effort and rest? Between retreat and engagement? Are my gifts best used giving fish or teaching to fish or working to change the whole fishing industry? Ladies and gentlemen, a small sampling of questions that have been […]
I began to sense that there was something contagious in the air that made everyone around me wants a baby to call her own. And there was something in the water making those babies, to the specific joy of their fathers, all boys. I found myself on support staff for the race for babies. All […]
In early February a piece of gymnastics equipment crashed on my hand during a meet I was coaching. It resulted in an open wound on my right palm and ring finger so gruesome that my spouse vomited twice in the Emergency Room. Two months later, I am going to occupational therapy twice a week to […]
The Power of Lament
Meet Joe. Joe is a fifteen-year old who was randomly placed in my sophomore Hebrew Scripture class. He walks in disheveled, out of uniform and groggy every morning. He sits in the back, slouches, and never raises his hand. I have learned that instead of becoming offended by a kid like Joe, it helps to […]