Get Joy, Avoid Quicksand


The world may commend us for putting other people’s needs before our own all day every day, but it will also lead to burnout. About a year ago, a coach told me, “You are really good at loving people. That is your full-time job.” Naming LOVE as my work has helped me stay present in the moment more often and fully commit to the task at hand without clinging to the outcome. I have a variety of jobs—parenting, teaching, and writing to name a few—which are all different versions of my work to love. 

The same coach urged me, “Take five minutes in the morning to show yourself love. That will be enough to fill you up so you can love others in your day.” HERE ARE 12 TINY THINGS you can do to ground yourself, love yourself so you can approach others as a nourished and whole person.


Caren Stelson and I highlight the picture book You’ve Got Dragons this month and focus on the importance of taking the kids’ worries seriously. We can listen closely, get into their world, and offer them tools to cope with worries that might seem overwhelming to them.

The other day my four-year-old asked a series of questions about robbers, thieves, and crooks during bedtime. A library book presented the idea of burglary to him, and he had serious questions about the safety of our house and our family during the night. This same day he had preciously reminded me of his age and level of understanding when had asked me, “Momma, is the future a different world or a spice?”

I tried to validate his fear of robbers without feeding it. I listened carefully to what he was asking and what was behind the questions. We talked through the library book and pointed out differences in our reality. I reassured him that he was safe, reminded him we were in the next room, and gave him extra snuggles. READ THE FULL ARTICLE.