The Courage of Kindness

“A single act of kindness throws out roots in all directions and the roots spring up and make new trees.”

Amelia Earhart

Caren and my latest article on kindness is up at BOOKOLOGY. Read the full article HERE.

As we write this article, we are in the middle of a world-wide pandemic and a consequential election season. Both events ask us to address big, core questions: What kind of people do we want to be? How do we resolve our conflicts? How do we uphold justice? What principles do we want to teach our children? How will we heal our divided nation?

The kindness factor is part of the healing our society needs. Kindness may sound small, but it’s bigger than we think. Kindness is not a nicety done when convenient. In a single act of kindness lies acknowledgement, respect, compassion, empathy, and forgiveness. When accepted, an act of kindness is a two-way gift. Disguised as a singular act, it can send ripples of change beyond the people directly involved, affecting unknowable others. By cultivating kindness to our homes, schools and community lives, we have the power change our very culture.

Award-winning author Jacqueline Woodson uplifts the power of kindness in her picture book Each Kindness, illustrated by E.B. Lewis. The story begins as Chloe watches the school principal introduce Maya, a new girl to the school. “We all stared at her. Her coat was open and the clothes beneath it looked old and ragged. Her shoes were spring shoes, not meant for the snow. A strap on one of them had broken.” Maya takes a seat next to Chloe and smiles. Chloe scoots her desk a few inches away and turns to look out the window.

Each Kindness by Jacqueline Woodson

Chloe, her friends, and the rest of the class show little kindness toward Maya. The day Maya’s desk sits empty, Chloe’s teacher brings in a bowl filled with water. As the children watch, Ms. Albert drops a pebble into the bowl. “This is what kindness does,” Ms. Albert said. “Each little thing we do goes out, like a ripple into the world.” Chloe is left with an emptiness in her stomach. How many opportunities had she missed to offer kindness to Maya? Readers are left with the invitation to send kindness rippling out into the world.

On her website, Jacqueline Woodson writes:

“At some point in our lives, we are all unkind. At some point, we are all treated unkindly. I wanted to understand this more. I think too often we believe we’ll have a second chance at kindness – and sometimes we don’t. I do believe, as Chloe’s teacher, Ms. Albert, says, that everything we do goes out, like a ripple into the world. I wrote this because I believe in kindness.”

Kindness Pals

Peace of Mind

Linda Ryden introduces the idea of “Kindness Pals” in Peace of Mind, her curriculum for Grades 3 – 5. Each week, children are paired with a new person in their classroom with the invitation to do something kind for their partner. At the end of the week, children share their kindness experience. She asks, “How does your body feel when you are kind? How have your thoughts changed towards your Kindness Pal? How did you feel when your kindness pal was kind to you?” If Chloe and Maya had been Kindness Pals, their story might have been quite different.

Kindness ripples, ensuring that a little goes a long way. If we believe in, teach and practice daily kindness, imagine how can we change our homes, classrooms, neighborhoods and our country.